Parent-dominated people are rewarded in childhood for perfect conformity, obedience and compliance. Difficult to move them from their “continuous recording, which is self-perpetuating.
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Parent shrinkers
Move another persons parent to child or adult so that here and now communication can proceed. Should be used from adult.
- Cross the transaction eg: “can you tell me what you plan to do?”
- Agree – if he is right
- Go off on a tangent
- Cheers – positive feedback to comment
- Silence
- Move in – into his space bubble
- Change your mind – if relevant
- “Could you please say it another way?”
- Ricochet – positive feedback to a third person
- Write it down
- Find his child and feed it – “how would you change to make it feel good?”
- Be ok