- Painful feelings erode self esteem
- I’m ok you’re not ok – childhood dependency
- Assumptive reality
- Constructs may contain wrong assumptions
- Resolution
- Unconditional love
- Stroking
- Internal dialogue our feelings are hurt if the transaction arouses our parent who then accuses as
- internally
| Parent | externally derived |
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| Adult | internally derived |
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| Child | internally derived |
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The brain records all experiences and associated feelings as a child and plays than back later so that we can be in 2 places at once (actually reliving the previous experience) even though we may not be able to connect the two.
- Feelings
- Do and don’t messages
- The internal dialogue and trackdown
- Adult vs parent protection
- Parent-stoppers
- Stroking
- Requirements for change
- Keeping people
- Parent shrinkers
- Take charge of your time
- Building children
- Knowing and doing
Sources and references
- Games people play – Eric Berne
- I’m OK, you’re OK – Amy and Thomas Harris
- Staying OK – Amy and Thomas Harris
These are my notes and thoughts, and are based on the books above. The notes may not make a great deal of sense on their own and are not a “summary” of the books – you will need to read the books yourself!