Stroking

 

• Some need more strokes than others
• Games grow from stroke hunger
• Can get strokes from reliving previous experiences
• Need strokes every day
• Come as the result of relationships – relationships require that time is given to them

Giving strokes

• Marshmallow throwing – may be too much (and may be our agenda)
• Awareness – love starts with seeing the others child after handling our own agenda through trackdown

Forms of stroking

• Eye contact
• Listen
• Ask questions
• Use names (name signposting)
• Give yourself away
• Give your name
• Take a risk with theirs
• Be a rewarder – do it now!
• Write to people
• Plan
• Don’t allow discounting
• Don’t be ignored
• Recognise others have a point of view
• Loosen up
• Doers do, tryers try
• Don’t have too many intentions – actually do one or two